Gentlemen, Ladies - marriage, kids were brought up, but he won't introduce me to...

[LAgirl]

...his Mom!? It was only 6 months after I moved out of my ex BF place and started living on my own when we met. Before we started dating he said his mom would love me, after a few dates, he said he loves me and wants to take care of me. Lately, he's been thoughtless, and I'm suspecting that he lies to get what he wants. He waits until the last minute to tell me he's busy like on new year' eve. He won't share his plans unless I ask. He tells me he'll call in the evening and the call never comes. His last excuse for not calling is he's had too much to drink and he didn't call anyone he was supposed to call. I was upset and he knew it. I tried to talk to him during dinner, but his cell phone rang non-stop and one of the callers was a woman. He said he wanted me for dessert. I didn't react the way he wanted me to then later he said he was too tired to make love. That's a lie. He knows something is up with me and he's rather "avoid" any unpleasantness. I called him Friday night, but I didn't leave a message. He called back and told me he's having dinner with his mom ( I didn't ask him this time ). Why didn't he invite me? He's seen his mom several times already. He knew I was free, he already had plans and he didn't tell me until the same day or minutes before.

I haven't introduced him to my family or friends yet. We've been seeing each other about 4 months.

He's spontaneous and that's not bad but, what about common courtesy? He's over 40, never been married and he can barely commit a week in advance! My brother is warning me that he's a player since he's never been married...that I should stick to dating divorced men ( I'm divorced ).

I don't know what to do. I've fallen for this guy and I'm afraid of getting hurt. I feel I can't believe the things he tells me anymore. Maybe I'm still not ready for a BF, and I should make new friends since I've moved into a new city since last year.

I tried to talk to him but he just acts surprised and clueless. I would appreciate your input.

 

[Cracker Jack]

Him not inviting you doesn't really mean anything. He simply didn't want you there.

This is just a matter of overdoing things. You didn't introduce him to your family and neither has he. Both of you are on equal terms, so it doesn't matter.

 

[free_angel]

He's nor worth fighting for. Dump him and find someone else.

 

[Bears Mom]

I think it sounds like he is seeing other women and using all of you. I think you should move on and find someone who treats you well not some guy who is inconsiderate and thoughtless like this guy. Your brother is right...this guy sounds like a player.

 

[Terry]

Listen to your brother, sound wisdom

 

[♥aquamarine♥]

I had a husband who never shared his plans with me either. Whenever he was out really late I would be so worried and I would text him and call him and he wouldn't answer. Then he would come home at 2 in the morning and say his phone was off. But it was not off when I had called him. I decided I should leave voice mails and when I did he said he did not listen to them because he never listens to voice mails...but I noticed he ALWAYS`listened to his mother's voice mails...

When I told him I was upset with his behavior he acted surprised and pretended not to understand. I am getting divorced now because I found out a couple things about him. He is so cute and adorable and I love him but a relationship does not continue after a while when one side tries to do everything. He was texting three girls like crazy when he didn't even text me once and I was worried at home waiting for him because he would say he would go and come back real fast because he had Business.He stole me money, stole from the bank, took my car, my cats... the list goes on

HE took everything from me...dont fall in to the same trap. I would not risk it if I were you...now I am trying to start a fresh new life...step back before its too late...because after a certain point, him being cute and adorable is not gonna be enough for you and you are going to want someone who really cares.