He deletes texts, e-mails, visits live sex chats, and the porn keeps getting more...

[Jema Delitina]

...frequent and hardcore? My boyfriend and I are 26 and 27, live together, and generally have a good sex life. I am very open, willing to try new things, toys, dress up, and watch porn with him. I always knew he was looking up porn and except recently the amount and intensity has increased. Here is the progression - Blonde/Brunette big tits having sex > Double Penetration > Slut > Live sex chat > Gang bang. On top if it he keeps all his e-mails and texts completely deleted and has put a password on his personal computer which I still sometimes need to use. I know about the texts and e-mails because I use his things on occasion (we live together). He is also very paranoid about me using them and keeps the phone on silent a lot. I have also asked a married friend if her husband is bothered when she answers his phone or uses his personal computer and he is not. I do not think he is actually having sex with someone else face to face because he doesn't go out a lot, work late, that sort of thing. However, I do think he is communicating with other women on a personal/technology driven level.

LOL, and before the slew of people on here says, "Maybe you are fat." I am not. I am a natural 34C with a 25" waist and I stay in shape. In fact I am in better shape now than when we got together and, actually, he has gained about 30 lbs which I am a bit tired of keeping my mouth shut about but still haven't said anything.

I hate accusing him of things without proof but this is all very suspicious to me. I do love him but still I can't bring myself to say anything about all this without hard proof. I do consider interaction with another via the net or phone cheating particularly when he starts denying me sex. I don't have hard proof that he is actually typing with these women because its a flash chat but why would you visit a live sex chat site just to watch a not so attractive girl when you could see better women in porn? I also know he visits the same women frequently.

Is this normal? Am I asking too much that he not interact with other women via the net and phone on a sexual level? Not sure if I should start digging more or how to catch him at anything since he is so careful about it? It's gotten to the point where I want to pretend I am sleeping for a couple hours and keep trying to catch him in the act. Any real advise or personal experiences would be a great help. Thanks!
We have been together almost 6 years.

 

[Rowdy]

Sorry,but if you are doing anything that you keep hidden from your spouse then you're doing something you shouldn't. I'd tell him to either let you see EVERYTHING or get the hell out and stay gone.

Yes,my wife not only knows all about any fetish I have,she actively participates in finding me someone to help me enjoy the ones she doesn't want to do.