How to Daty?

[caldwell]

First things first. Get comfortable. If you suck at it, you might be down there a while trying to get her to orgasm, unless she kicks you out of bed for not knowing how to eat pussy. If you are good at it, you might be there a while just because she is enjoying herself too much. Expect to be down there for 10-20 minutes.

If you have the woman laying on her back and you on your stomach with your head between her legs, DO NOT spread her legs so wide she can straddle the bed, women usually have a harder time reaching an orgasm with their legs wide apart, instead have her inner thighs against the side of your head. You can wrap your arms around her legs which gives you more control when she is orgasming and squeezing her legs so hard like she is trying to crush your head. If she is sitting in a chair, kneel in front of her but put something soft underneath your knees so they don't hurt. If she is standing up, find a chair or bed.

Fore-Foreplay. When you first go down, don't just start licking, warm her up to it. Blow on her clit area, lick her lips lightly, softly use your chin to rub her a little. Lick, kiss, suck her upper inner thigh (near where the leg meets the torso) a little bit. With a stiff tongue, lick the area where the leg does meet the torso.

Playing with the little man in the canoe. For beginners, I wouldn't suggest adding finger play. Too much is going on and you will get distracted and stop licking or won't finger her correctly. Most women like clit action, few like licking the lips, and others like licking inside the pussy. I will only talk about clit licking. Pick TWO motions and rotate between them. Up and down, side to side, diagonal in one direction with more pressure at the end of the lick*, circles, flicking, dog licks**, munching***, etc... To start I would do up and down and circles. Those two motions are constant stimulation on the clit. Up and down is where you are licking the clit on both the uplick and the downlick. It gives two different sensations because the uplick is usually harder than the downlick. The circle goes all around and doesn't let up. Switch between the two every 30-45 seconds. Every once in a while go back to Fore-Foreplay for a second. For the advanced, rub her taint in circular motions. It is easy, it puts good pressure on some nerve endings, and you won't be fingering her ass which most women won't let you do.

When she orgasms, continue to lightly (the clit is extremely sensitive at this point, so only do it lightly) lick her clit. If she pulls away from you either stop or lightly blow air on pubic area. If she violently pulls away, DO NOT DO ANYTHING TO HER, you will get kicked, trust me, I know. Just grin like the Cheshire cat cause you did good. Unless you bit her hard...

The way to tell if a woman is enjoying herself, is when she is gyrating her hips, you better gyrate with her, pushing your head down harder, or grabs your hands. There are other ways, but you have to pay attention for those signs.

The Don'ts. DON'T SWITCH MOTIONS TOO FAST TOO OFTEN, they will not reach an orgasm that way. Don't act like you don't want to do it, if you don't, just don't do it. Don't do a 69, it isn't as pleasurable for either party, they are concentrating more on giving or receiving. Don't be too rough, some women like it harder than other women, start off soft. Don't go down on a smelly or unclean pussy, unless you like that sort of thing. Don't try too hard, if it doesn't seem like it is working, it isn't. Try something else next time, ask her how she likes it because all women are different and like different techniques.

*My favorite, it puts soft pressure in the beginning and more pressure at the end of the lick. It is slow enough to not tire out your tongue, but fast enough to keep her stimulated.
**Dog licks like how a dog licks your face. Long hard licks.
***Munching is having your lips over your teeth and bite. This usually doesn't work well.

 

[Bec]

If you can do a good daty on a woman you will become a Brad Pitt for her

 

[Marina V]

Thanks for the Daty 101 intro Massimo. :aww:

 

[Pompal 09.]

Daty WHAT's that? :arf:

 

[Sarah Atkinson]

Good tips. Thanks Massimo. I'm not so good at daty, so will try out these techniques.

 

[iamcrazyy]

Try spraying WD40 on the gum, don't be shy, it won't stain. The gum will start to break down, rub it out with a cloth. Works on clothing, upholstery, hair, etc. I kid you not.
OK so it's not as exciting as eating pussy, but my instructions will work every time.

 

[Luckii]

Thanks Massimo.

But why do you suggest to beginners not to use digits? I think most of us know where the G-Spot is, and simple penetration, with G-Spot pressure shouldn't be enough of a distraction, from your instructions. Don't mean to hijack your thread Massimo, so hope you are okay with our other suggestions. Respond if you think we've got something wrong.

Guys, you should be spending AT LEAST 10 minutes of DATY in a one hour session. Your mileage may (WILL) increase.

Somethings I've learnt that you can add to your repertoire:

- search for the pearl in the shell (little man in the canoe), and separate "its" foreskin from the head - see if you can get the tip of your tongue between the "foreskin" and the "little head" - yeah, sounds gross, but it was a "penis" at one time

- keep everything moist/wet/lubed, nothing worse than dry rubbing her clit

- lick on the urethra, some love that

- blow air on her clit (like Massimo said), the temperature change is effective (some girls think I have built-in mint machine in my mouth)

- keep a thumb/finger on/in her anus, if that's okay with her

 

[ilovemybestfriends]

A couple things....first, what makes one woman explode might make another go cold. The most important thing is to pay close attention to her reactions...when you find that move that makes her grind, makes her gasp, makes her moan -- don't change what you're doing just because your schedule says you should.

This topic came up in a drunken conversation with friends awhile back, and it was agreed that one fabulous thing is a flat tongue laying almost-still on a clit...also agreed that it takes few seconds for the effect to kick in. Not saying every woman will like it, cause everyone's different.

Blowing air on a clit can be great....NEVER EVER EVER blow air into a vagina. It can cause a medical emergency.

 

[Sarah A]

Not that I ever have, but how can this happen, I'm curious. I have never heard of this before.

 

[~JuliaGulia~]

http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/1859.html

Yes, it's a true but very rare occurrence. When air is blown or forced directly into a vagina — without allowing any air to escape — an air embolism (the abnormal presence of air in the cardiovascular system) could form, which can be fatal. Women who are more at risk for this unlikely possibility are those whose pelvic vessels are enlarged (meaning, increased blood supply to the vagina) due to a condition such as trauma and possibly pregnancy. So, if a very large amount of air were to be blown or forced into their vaginal canals, it's possible that the air could enter their bloodstream, causing a blockage in a blood vessel. As a result, some of these women, perhaps including the pregnant women's fetus, may experience complications. In extraordinary cases, some of these women (and the fetus) may die if the embolism travels to the heart or lungs.
If you like blowing air into your girlfriend's vulva, and if your girlfriend enjoys the sensations brought on by this, it may give you two some peace of mind to know that gently puffing some air into or breathing on a woman's vulva during oral pleasuring appears to be okay. However, it might be better to suck, kiss, lick, probe, press (with lips or fingers), or lightly nibble a woman's vulva or clitoris than blow or force air directly into her vagina. Safer and enjoyable oral sex on a woman mostly involves using a dam, finding out what feels good to her, and practice.

 

[LinkLover]

Excellent advice from someone who should know!

I'll bet you give good DATY! :gasp::great: :mrgreen: