I found proof of my husband on 40+ online sex, chat, dating sites. He denys...

[Robin Kennedy]

...it. What do I do? I love my husband with all my heart. He's the first man I have ever been "in love" with. I'm not so sure he feels the same.
I recently found that he has memberships at over 40 singles, live sex, chat, porn etc sites. His profiles all say he's single, looking for "THE ONE", what he likes sexually (things I didn't even know). Live sex chat, videos hes watched and how long he watched them (or how long it took for him to get off), posts and comments he makes to other girls etc.
He has joined about half of them since we have been a couple, with last log in activity as soon as a week ago! The worst part is I am home when hes doing this! He tells me he's in the office working on business things. I have had to find wasy to entertain myself because some times I don't even see him for days even though he's only in the next room.
We have a healthy sexual relationship. On average we have sex at least once a day. I'm always ready and willing to be with him, he knows that. I would have sex with my husband 10 times a day if he wanted it. So, what the hell is the problem? None of his profiles say anything about companionship. They only say what positions, toys, gender, etc that he likes. I have read conversations he has with these girls. I want to throw up! It hurts so bad.
I have confronted hih, he denied it. I gave him a little bit of proof, hoping he would come clean, nope! I have gone as far as have someone help me find user names attached to his regular email, conversations, photos yada yada. He tells me somebody else must have created them and the computers are all wrong because he couldn't of logged on to a site hes never seen before just 3 days ago.
He finally, lastnight admitted he joined one or two when he was mad at me or something, but hasn't been back since. I know thats another lie because he "chatted" sexually with a friend of mine (she knew it was him and was showing me what he does). I asked him if he would cancil the memberships, he said he doesn't know how to. The man can hack into anything out there but cant cancil a membership?
I feel hurt, betrayed, insecure, loss of trust, and so much more. I don't know what to do.
I'm not a vengeful person, but lately I feel like if I go sleep with other guys I may feel better. He makes me feel ugly and unwanted. I kind of need to assure myself that other men dont feel that way. I mean he pays no attention to me anymore because he gives it all to these girls he doesnt even know. I know it would only make me feel guilty, and maters worse, but I don't know what else to do.
I love him and only him. He know that. I tell him all the time. I'm just not enough for him though.
Do I just leave him? I can't act like it doesnt exist. Im so confused!
Help!

 

[craig b]

Didn't your mommy tell you to not have sex before marriage?

THIS IS WHY!

We know you allowed it or else he would not be this way today. He SHOWED you his deepest character before you wed - AND YOU DIDN'T CARE!

Now you do?
You're a hypocrite!

 

[Tamaki]

Just leave him. Woman worked to hard for our independence, for us to what? Be the slaves of men? A woman need a man as much as a fish needs a bicycle. This guy sounds like a Tiger Woods, be smart and just leave. Or don't. You're choice at happiness. Which I guarantee you he cares little about.

 

[lyndsyG]

Tell him you seen all the sites and all the recent activity and you no that he is lying completely call him out on it.
He obviously has some kind of porn/sex addiction hence the lying. Then you need to decide if you want to stay with him if you do insist that he goes and see a therapists and gets help or you have to leave for your own sake also make him go to marriage counseling it is not okay to lie to your partner and search for other partners and Virtual cheat.

By the way going and sleeping with other men would only make you feel bad about your self and is just sick and wrong...

 

[M. Freedom]

my husband did that and it lead to an affair, i doubt our marriage will survive. unlike you i don't desire my husband anymore. you two have to get some counseling,,and prayer.
he'll say he loves you but but i highly doubt he will stop.
actions speak louder than words, if he did love you he would stop.
you could have spectra soft installed on the computer, it will show you all his activity..

 

[Animelover624]

What a husband! He is a total cheater. Leave him and never come back! Your husband is a scumbag

 

[sünflöwër]

My guess is that you and your husband need to see a sex counselor. Neither of you are getting fulfilled and maybe you need more spark in the bedroom.

And I have to agree with him. My hubby couldn't figure out how to cancel out of some of those sites either (started them before we met).

 

[Thing 1]

Join them to and add him. Invite him to a 'video chat' and dont let him know its you. And when hes on the chat jump on screen and go poof, "now you are single" and expose what he did to everyone.