Is this okay to do for outcalls?

[~*~Niny~*~]

 I was wondering if this was okay.  I could have my husband bring me and set up my equipment and arrange for him to pick me up when the appointment was over?  Would that be okay or is it unprofessional? Thanks, Janet

 

[banjaran]

Is this okay to do for outcalls?

I don't know. Will be interested in reading other opinions.Maybe, without lying, you could say that he is your assistant and his setting up your equipment allows you to direct all of your strength and energy into the massage.

 

[Leah]

Sounds ok to me, as long as you let the client know someone is coming with you to set up the equipment, so that they aren't stressed prior to the massage.  The clients' feeling (without being warned) could be that you will be trying to "do something bad" to them, so you may want to keep that in mind, and/or write out this policy (of your helper setting everything up) on you website or brochure as well as explaining this in advance.

 

[Lilly]

Is this okay to do for outcalls?

i have to ask you why....you should be physically able to tote your table, lube, linens, and even music for an outcall. for extra large groups, i could see possibly needing assistance. my experience is that the party i am serving is usually quite gracious to assist me bringing my gear in. if you're bringing the hubby to serve as bodyguard, there are more professional ways to accomplish that, as ZenCMT has said. and i will be so blunt as to tell you that if you're uncomfortable, for whatever reason, about taking command of your massage room in your client's space, they will know. your energy will be obvious to them. and, no offense, maybe you aren't aware that in the call-girl business, a "driver", usually male, accompanies the lady to her call to collect the money prior to services.now i'm not saying that's what you intend to portray, it's just that the perception from your potential clients, will be one of wonder... whether or not you are a legitimate therapist.something to think about....btw, i'm one of the lucky ones~ i bring my hubby all the time to the call, mine's an LMT and my business partner.but if he wasn't an MT, he wouldn't come with me.one last thing, this could be a transportation/parking issue. my hubby has dropped me and picked me up from a call because we were carpooling, or the other vehicle was in the shop, or parking was impossible for the call.i'm sorry if i sound harsh, i don't mean to be negative.

 

[qwerqwer]

Is this okay to do for outcalls?

janet, doesn't your husband have his own job to attend to?  It doesn't seem feasible that he could make himself available every time you book an appointment.  I'm with Carol, it's imperative that your husband knows where you are at all times.  With cell phones and Palm Pilots that's easily done.  Also, you should have some sort of legal protection - pepper spray, etc.  It's just a reality of the world we live in.  Last, when you do have a new client, having thoroughly screened them on the phone, go to their house and introduce yourself without your equipment and such.  Make the extra trip.  That way, an easy get away is available to you when you return to the car for the table.  At that point, you can simply take off and nothing is left behind.  If it's really a concern, you might want to consider a spa or rental space.  But when all is said and done, if your husband has the time and inclination, I say go for it.  Set the scenario ... while I conduct your initial interview and health history, my colleague will set up the equpment. One question though, what's he going to do while you do the massage?   Good luck, Joe E.

 

[Brother Handcannon]

Is this okay to do for outcalls?

One of our therapists did have her husband take her to some appts, but he went as far as toting the gear to the hotel or house door.Her husband happened to be a city cop, which she always managed to work into the conversation pretty early on!

 

[oismsuucnd]

Personally, I wouldn't want my partner to accompany me into my therapy/client's space, as I prefer to have a little quiet time to get in the zone, and then to focus entirely on my client and on building therapeutic alliance with them.  Having my partner meet them would be a bit like allowing too much of 'my' stuff to the forefront, rather than being completely open to the client's stuff.  Before the session even starts, I have already 'leaked' out certain stuff, which the client has to process before they can share the things they need to share.  I prefer to spend the session working with what the client brings, and leaving as much of my own baggage at the door as possible.  On the other hand, if it made me feel more comfortable, then maybe it would be worth a try.  From the client's point of view, if I was the client, I might feel a bit overwhelmed by having to accomodate two people in my 'space', and might take longer to feel completely comfortable.  I don't say you shouldn't do this, and the safety suggestions from others are great, I always do the mobile phone call before and after outcalls.  If you do bring another person into your therapeutic space, though, you have to make sure that their intent is exactly in alignment with your intent - to be there to help your client live better in their body (or however you describe your intent).I think your question is an important one though, and maybe your answer is to think about why you would even want to do this - is it for your client's benefit, your own benefit, or your partner's benefit?  What are the plusses and minusses on each score?  What is your personal balance between your interest's your client's interests, and your partner's interests?  In the end, you are the most important person, and you have to take care of yourself first, before you can look after your client or your partner, and do what is right for you, I think.

 

[Cooter]

Thanks for all your help.  I actually feel a little silly now.  I would say that I have not had a reason to worry yet.   I think that most of the time people are pretty easy to screen on the phone.  I usually don't pick up my phone after 7 because I have found that men who need a massage at that time are not looking for just a massage.    I think it would be nice to have him carry the table and supplies though.   My calls are local and he could just come back for me. (I'm just kidding)     I am in the process of trying to find a room to massage so I don't have to go through the trouble of lugging my table from place to place and worry as much about security.

 

[Pompal 09.]

Janet, don't feel silly!  There is nothing wrong with having your husband help you to set up as long as he doesn't hang around in the place.Like the post said just before mine, it's a personal judgement call.