Olive said:
I ask you to please stop being so mean and disrespectful. I am trying to get feedback on my view and my treatmnet.
I think that is the crux of the matter, the old threads are not about
your view and
your treatment alone, they were already a mix of views and treatments. I didn't treat the thread as one about
your treatment, so that was viewed as mean and disrespectful? I think my posts are usually fairly factual, so maybe that is what you see as mean, I haven't cushioned the "are you aware of the contraindication?" with "what a wonderful idea for a treatment. I am so glad you've found such a bargin. Are you aware of the contraindication?".
Olive said:
It is only 5 minutes and willnot be based in relgion.
Shirodhara is not a religious treatment, it is not based in religion, it's a traditional ayurvedic treatment. Ayurveda is not a religion, it is a lifestyle philosophy like being a vegetarian. It is a vast volume of knowledge that can be applied from everyday life to specific conditions. People following the lifestyle come from all different religions. Ayurveda, since it is not a religion, does not conflict with any religion.
Olive said:
sorry if I did not use an old thread in my excitment to start something fresh and new. Sorry I did not use an old thread to express my interest in a wonderful therapy but pared down to be managable for me in a small spa setting. Sorry if I felt adding to an old thread that discuessed the shirodhara in detail, would be misleading because this cannot be considered a shirodhara due to my lack of complete training in this relgion and the time limit.
not sure why you feel you need to apologise so much, what I commented on was why were you so dismissive of the old threads when they included many of the answers to your questions.
Olive said:
so please chill out and if you cannot be positive for me and my new venture just don't post. It is pretty simple. I repect your concern...but it has gotten hurtful.
Please don't feel the need to "respect my concern" - my concern, that you find so hurtful, was not directed at you, it was directed towards the treatment you asked for "ideas, thoughts, and concerns.... " about. Yes, a realistic comment about the financial viability of a 5 min treatment that would use almost as much oil as a 20min treatment because you would not be re-circulating the oil in only 5min, is not a positive comment towards you or your new venture but you asked for info about a treatment! You can't have
ideas, thoughts, and concerns.... AND
if you cannot be positive for me and my new venture just don't post. Maybe your list of apologies should also include "Sorry I didn't specify only warm fuzzy positive replies because I will perceive anything else as negative and hurtful to me and my new venture".
It's an online community, with online personalities, There are many many many more people reading any thread on here than just the people that have posted on the thread. The real person and the online personality are NOT the same thing.
Heck, if we want to get all hurt about it, I was accused of being negative because I
asked why the old threads were no use. Oh how hurtful! The original post wasn't just a case of the usual new thread asking for info about something where the first post will usually be "here are some links to old threads...." followed by a "thank you", this was very specifically "I don't want links to old threads", so I asked "why?" which was "WOW pretty negative" of me. Being called names online means less than being called names in the playground, so no, I'm not all hurt and offended. It's only a message board and comments about me being mean, disrespectful, negative, whatever other name you want to put to it, are about the words online, not me. You want to read my words as negative, that is your prerogative; you want to read the words as raising issues you'd not considered, that's your decision. It is widely recognised that the actual words are a TINY part of what communication is about; online the words are all there are and you put the your own intonation on it, what that intonation is, is your own. The intonation you put on them might be because they hit some core self esteem issue, they are similar phrasing to what your abusive father used, just like your best friend, you will only talk to people wearing red hats, and the words do/don't feel like they are wearing red hats, whatever, it's you responding to the words that way.
And thanks to those that offered support, not really needed in this case, but appreciated