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ECD...ECD where are you? someone do a wellness check
You guys are fucking hilarious!
OK, curiousone64, and anyone else who is interested, the previous posters are correct in saying that there is no standard. Anyone can say they offer tantric services. It really doesn't mean anything. What makes the experience, is them, not a course they went on.
I like to think of it as playing with sexual energy. I stumbled into this years ago because of my chronic fatique, which was made worse by frequent ejaculations. Whether or not you believe the whole "life force energy" thing, when a guy ejaculatates, it triggers a who series of hormone and neurotransmitter effects that make you more tired than you were before. My initial research took me towards Taoist sexual energy movement and it is similar to Tantra (less well known and less "sexy"). Yes, orgasm and ejaculation are two separate events that happen so close together that most don't realize it. I never did. It is real, but I don't preach one way is better than another. For me, I ejaculate when my body tells me to, so I say that I am unattached to whether or not I ejaculate with someone. An orgasm without ejaculation is pretty cool and, based on some pillow talk with a few women, it seems to be similar to a female orgasm. It is an overall body tingling sensation, sometimes accompanied by pulses of energy similar to what is felt during an ejaculation. Sometimes, I can feel my prostate pumping as I am having one, but it does not lead to ejaculation.
The benefits for me are clear. More energy. No rolling over and falling asleep but no blue balls either. The other thing I've noticed is that my pleasure ceiling has gone way way up. My pleasure used to go up a ramp until I came, then fell off to baseline. After a short period of time after an orgasm without an ejaculation, I can keep playing above any pleasure line I had before. I can also regain my erection, if I lose it, and I last a lot longer than before, but my goal is not always to finish in ejaculation. That leaves time for other activities beyond FS.
The downside? Reaction from women and guys. Guys say, "Why would I NOT want to ejaculate? That's the whole point!". To them, I say, if your goal is to cum, even maybe multiple times, then go for it. It's all good. Women surprised me because I never realized how many link a guy cumming to them feeling like they did a good job.
As for who to recommend? I feel chemistry plays a big role with this type of experience. My choices may not be yours. I have seen Geisha-K and Hotwife Helena and they are both the real deal. They know how to play with the energy either with me during a lingam massage, or with us during a full session.
I also see Ann at O Massage (non-interactive), even though she doesn't even know what Tantra or Taoist sexual energy play is. She does know accupressure of the genitals, so her sessions are as good as many lingam massages I've had with others. I have talked with her about what I am looking for and she understands, so an ejaculatory finish is not a must do from her standpoint. I will say that she is one of the few who can tip me over the edge, whether I was planning to or not. That's because she gets it. She can play with and build the sexual energy in a way that leads to intense pleasure for me. It's more than an edging session.
So, curiousone64, if the idea of feeling the arousal and pleasure build in your body, and you moving it around to lead to different kinds of pleaure interests you, then I would encourage you look into it. You don't have to do 3-4 hour sessions. Mine with Ann are almost always an hour.
I do appreciate the concern for my well-being, so thought I should post. I'm OK. If I don't post for a while, it's usually because I am giving myself multiple orgasms without ejaculations during hours of self pleasure. If you see a guy who radiates an indescribable glow of golden energy, with women randomly approaching him because they are drawn to him by his sexual magnatism, yeah, that's me.