What would you do if your son was gay?

[Elise Jane]

I would throw him out of the house.

 

[Careless]

Ridiculous question in my humble opinion... almost as ridiculous as the OP's reaction to it... Really? You'd throw him out?

Oddball is more along the lines of my way of thinking... I love my son unconditionally. Yes, he pisses me off sometimes, but that's no different than I did to my dad I'm sure. That doesn't mean I love him any less. There would be some initial confusion, (due to my own inability to understand what he's going through...) but that would fade quickly, I'm sure. He's still my son, and I love him for the person he is, not for whom he chooses to be with.

 

[blackshoes]

Hard to say unless and until we're actually put in that position.

I know that i would love my child unconditionally, even if his (or her) actions hurt me. I suspect that my reaction will not be about him insomuch as it would be about me. I would want my child to be happy, a good person and to reach his fullest potential. None of that changes if he were gay.

If I were to be disappointed, it would be a result of my own expectations of a traditional nuclear family.

I can only hope that my relationship with him as a parent is strong enough that he can be open with me and not have to hide anything.

 

[Om Nom Nom]

Brian Burke would like a word or two with you.



Brendan told his father he was gay in 2007 and while Brian admitted in November he was surprised by the news, he was supportive.

“I said, 'It won’t change anything Brendan,' ” Brian Burke said at the time. “ 'It doesn’t change our view, we love you and we’re proud of you. It doesn’t change anything in my mind and it never will.' ”

http://www.thestar.com/sports/hockey/article/761516--leafs-saddened-by-loss-of-brian-burke-s-son

 

[Trixzter]

Yeah, I'd throw him out of the house too. I'd rather my kid uphold social expectations and be miserable, rather than have the self-respect to be honest with himself, and with me. I'd rather make my love conditional on him being straight, because that's what a truly loving parent will do.

Hey, maybe I'll get lucky and my queer kid will just kill himself instead of coming out (suicide and drug abuse are up to five times as likely among LGBT kids, especially those with closed-minded families) because that'll save me the trouble of dealing with it! Best of all, when I'm old, lonely and miserable, I can be happy that I drove away all of my loved ones, so I can die alone without anyone there with me. I'm sure I wouldn't regret that at all... :arf:

Sorry for being so sensitive to this, but I just lost my (paternal) grandmother last week, and I've been spending a lot of time with my Dad lately. It's been almost three years since I came out to him, and he's not the most open-minded person... it was hard for him to adjust at first (especially with pronouns) but he's since realized that he'd rather see me happy, no matter what. My Dad loves all his kids, regardless of who they are, or who they fuck.

My grandmother died peacefully, surrounded by her family and friends - and I can guarantee she didn't give a damn who among them was gay or straight. She was just glad to be loved at the end.

The real question should be, are you so prejudiced that you'd rather die alone, instead of having your non-hetero kid hold your hand at the end?

 

[Captain Failboat]

Condolences Nikki and a perfect last paragraph.

 

[HannahSaysHii<3]

Exactly

Life is too short not to love or be loved, especially with our own children.

(and my condolences, Nikki)

 

[Osama]

I HAVE A SON?:shock:

 

[littleme09]

Gay or straight makes little difference too me.

It's just a sexual preference not a determining factor in my love for my child.

 

[gato25]

I don't care if he's gay, as long as he understands that would not relieve him of his obligation to give me grandkids.

 

[Robert G]

Sexual orientation should have ZERO bearing on your love of a child... even further, it should not affect your feelings for any family member or friends.

 

[anonymous...]

OUCH man, there goes my wood!

 

[quakiss]

I would be ashamed if my son was a murderer or a convicted criminal. I would not love him any less if he was gay. I would have concerns for him because being gay does complicate life a bit in today's society but I would accept it and support him.

 

[Jourdan]

OMG! All the free sex.....

 

[spencer J]

do you drag your knuckles when you walk zogg ?

 

[Danny G]

So That will make you good parent? Its just pure stupidity!!!:grrrrrr:

 

[Mykayla]

Being gay is not by choice. They are born with it, called fate.

 

[crystal-claire]

Very true except for the few that try it and decided they like it. I knew a woman that was married for years and happy. She was eventually swept off her feet by another woman and left her husband.

To be honest I wouldn't be happy if my son turned out gay, any straight Dad that says other wise is full of shit but if it happened I would still consider him my son and love him.

 

[Rack My Brain]

I don't think it's that black and white. And I do believe that while some, maybe most, gays were "born" gay, for many others, it's a little more complicated than that.

But whether it's a choice or not is beside the point. Unless you believe that there's something wrong with being gay. Otherwise, why should it matter whether your son/daughter/uncle/friend/coworker's sexuality is a choice or not?

 

[~SuperGirl.(:]

Hormonal influences

Since sexual differentiation occurs within the womb, as a result of hormonal influences, it has been hypothesized that homosexuality may result from a differential hormone balance in the wombs of those who eventually exhibit a homosexual orientation. Since hormonal levels within the womb are not available, proxies for hormonal influences have been used to examine the question of how hormonal influences might impact sexual orientation. These proxies include differences in skeletal size and shape, including the ratio of the long bones of the arms and legs relative to arm span or stature and the hand bones of adults (the ratio of the length of the various phalanges).


http://www.godandscience.org/evolution/genetics_of_homosexuality.html