Would it be inappropriate for me to tell a good friend not to introduce a

[Worldly Love]

new friend to an "enemy" clique? I introduced a new friend (friend B) to an older friend (friend A) and the older friend has taken quite a liking to the new friend--acting really aggressive in befriending her quickly. It caught me way off guard, as I didn't think friend A was like this (guess I didn't know her as well as I thought). But it's not that bothersome to me since friend A is very open with me and always invites me out with her friends.

However, I just discovered that friend A has befriended this one clique that I am not too keen on. This clique has known me for about two years and they have barely reached out to me. Which is fine. I just focused on trying to make new friends. But now friend A has recently told me she's going to plan a hiking trip and also a Halloween part and she has told it to friend B already, and I am certain she will invite the girls from this clique. I just met friend B and want to foster my friendship with her, as I really like here, and I don't have a lot of friends at the moment (since I moved to a new area).

Would it be inappropriate for me to tell friend A to not introduce friend B to the clique out of respect for me (since I am the one who introduced them, after all)? I want to foster my friendship with friend B without having to deal with her possibly becoming friends with the girls in this clique that barely give me the time of day and that I just don't like.

What do you think? I've read a LOT about "friend-poaching" online and it looks like it's quite common. I wish I knew more about it, as I would have been more careful about who I introduce and when I introduce them.

 

[mejaki]

I know you're worried about "losing" your new friend to this other group, but the thing is, you don't own her. You have no right to try to dictate to your older friend who she can or can't introduce your new friend to, and if you try, odds are you'll lose both of them. Do your best to maintain both friendships, and try not to act jealous--if this girl is a real friend, she won't drop you for the "new" group regardless.

 

[barthebear]

You have very good intentions. But everyone isnt as good as you. You are under the delusion that she will listen to you. Usually what happens is you are quoted to that other person. She will say what you said to her. Too much drama. Let eveyone do what they want and if your friends are poached then they werent worth it to begin with. Focus on your academics or career.