Hey there Bdog
It seems to me that your fear and paranoia is getting the better of you. There is precaution and education and there is just letting fear control you.
I think massageplanet is the cat's ass for info but perhaps you need to stop asking questions and relying on other people to help you make a decision. There are a lot of other resources to educate yourself in these matters. There is the law library at UofC. There is a large resource in DT library or online. Get to know what legal implications will effect you in the worst case scenerio "they' get you.
Get outside and off your ass in front of the tv or computer. You have got to live by your decisions and be true to yourself first. Your conviction will supercede any regret you may have afterwards. You can't control what is going to happen! You can control your thoughts and actions. Live your life like you mean it. Wake up as you intended.
Last of all, get off this site. Go talk to the first girl (every girl) that you think is cute and say HI. It may not always end up with you getting your feet (dick) wet but at least you are making some effort.
That's about it.
Good luck