My 2 cents. Many women working in spas do so because it is the only way to provide for family back home in China, specially now with a disastrous economic situation in China. So no matter what, serving customers will always take priority over personal relations, because they need to provide for relatives back home. That does not mean you cannot have a relation with a girl outside of work, but it takes a lot of patience and understanding. Many spa workers, work 7 days a week, 10 hours a day, with little time left for shopping for food and sleeping, so not a lot of time for anything else. There's also a difference in culture where Chinese often prefer not to hurt someone's feelings, so what we see as lying, is not always how they perceive it. And finally Chinese girls in relationships love to receive expensive presents (to the point that Chinese men dread going shopping with their girlsfriends), so be prepared for that a