Poll Have you ever broken up with and subsequently made up with a favorite SW?

[startbeforeIfinish]

In my own experiences on this topic, found it boils down to several things:

1. Paid or unpaid.
2. Mental health & stability.
3. Realistic expectations.
4. Someone better or shift in personal life

With the girls seen over years, as mentioned in the threads, you do develop a connection and rapport, usually leading to heightened experiences in services offered, outside the spa interactions, and ongoing communication.

The line for me that is crossed that shows whether it's of substance, is when you pay or not. You'll pay for the room fee, but aren't tipping for what happens in room. You might think that's bullshit! but have seen several girls where no money is exchanged in room. How does this happen? One day, the girl says, I can't charge you anymore, or says your money's no good here, or places the money back into your pants. A line's been crossed, and she knows you aren't just a customer.

Some aren't in the best mental health, or stable. At the worst have experienced girls who are most likely bipolar. When they're manic, you can have some of the best experiences you've ever had at a spa in every which way. When they're depressed, you can see and experience vindictive, jealous, immature, and risky behaviour.

I've had one have realistic expectations. We obviously met at a spa. Given that context, we are both often seeing other people. Why would we be exclusive? She's seeing dozens of guys a week. She has a preference for her to take care of my needs more often, or exclusively. But knows that variety is the spice. She'll up her game, and soon, you're enjoying things with her that you don't with others.

In moving on, from her ending things for a myriad of reasons, or things have changed in your own circumstances, at times finding someone younger and hotter. Clearly nothing lasts forever, and what you experienced when the curtain temporarily opened, is a good memory.

As time passes, circumstances can also change where you connect again. When that's happened in the past, it's either cold and professional, or like putting on an old comfortable pair of shoes. Often that re-connection has happened as a walk-in to a spa, and discovering she's there.

I have been on both sides of most of those circumstances. About paying or not I don't buck for that because it's a suckers bet. Quid pro quo doesn't hurt me it's all so complex but big shit I'm on the honor roll and that can lead to problems. Bottom line sex is always gonna cost you now or later. Interesting post

 

[William tell]

(spelling/grammar/word corrections mine )

That's almost a textbook definition of cognizant dissonance (I accidentally called it a disorder )

Not slamming mpas as we all do it somewhat but they do display it more than average imo

On that note, who are these girls at SL?

Cognitive dissonance

 

[eyeswideshut]

Cognitive dissonance

I musta had a brain fart

 

[eyeswideshut]

sex is always gonna cost you now or later

% agree, and usually more if its later

 

[Starbrand]

I think the biggest thing is during chit chat you find common interests. It is easy for these girls to become general friends.

If you start hanging out beyond spa life and they are single, a relationship starts to natural grow.

 

[VinnyBulbarino]

In my own experiences on this topic, found it boils down to several things:

1. Paid or unpaid.
2. Mental health & stability.
3. Realistic expectations.
4. Someone better or shift in personal life

With the girls seen over years, as mentioned in the threads, you do develop a connection and rapport, usually leading to heightened experiences in services offered, outside the spa interactions, and ongoing communication.

The line for me that is crossed that shows whether it's of substance, is when you pay or not. You'll pay for the room fee, but aren't tipping for what happens in room. You might think that's bullshit! but have seen several girls where no money is exchanged in room. How does this happen? One day, the girl says, I can't charge you anymore, or says your money's no good here, or places the money back into your pants. A line's been crossed, and she knows you aren't just a customer.

Some aren't in the best mental health, or stable. At the worst have experienced girls who are most likely bipolar. When they're manic, you can have some of the best experiences you've ever had at a spa in every which way. When they're depressed, you can see and experience vindictive, jealous, immature, and risky behaviour.

I've had one have realistic expectations. We obviously met at a spa. Given that context, we are both often seeing other people. Why would we be exclusive? She's seeing dozens of guys a week. She has a preference for her to take care of my needs more often, or exclusively. But knows that variety is the spice. She'll up her game, and soon, you're enjoying things with her that you don't with others.

In moving on, from her ending things for a myriad of reasons, or things have changed in your own circumstances, at times finding someone younger and hotter. Clearly nothing lasts forever, and what you experienced when the curtain temporarily opened, is a good memory.

As time passes, circumstances can also change where you connect again. When that's happened in the past, it's either cold and professional, or like putting on an old comfortable pair of shoes. Often that re-connection has happened as a walk-in to a spa, and discovering she's there.

Very very very well written, you nailed a few keypoints on the head.

 

[karlcox]

I had a girl I used to see at a no extras spa. Used to bbfs cip. After maybe 10 times she told me I shouldn’t see her again. I already knew she had a BF who didn’t know what she did. A month later I went back and we just picked up again right where we left off. Eventually she confessed her BF was her fiancé. Saw her one time after she got married almost a year later. She then left the biz.

 

[Social-Misfit]

In my experience it usually gets better with regulars (sometimes way better) then plateaus and finally a crash-and-burn. By that I don't mean there has to be a conflict, just that it tends to end way faster than it began (ghosting seems the popular choice)

As you say, better to manage the closeness. Maybe more than 'not give them anything' but always aware of what you are giving and never 'too much'

The closeness resulting in conflict is usually the result of one getting closer to the other but realizing the relationship will never end up a couple

 

[xtc27]

The closeness resulting in conflict is usually the result of one getting closer to the other but realizing the relationship will never end up a couple

I think the key = one wants more f/ it than the other … 2 ppl want FWBs? That can last forever … but as soon as someone wants more … or less ofc … then trouble ahead!

 

[xtc27]

That list of Semi that don't offer is getting smaller and smaller...

It seems like that … lotsa formerly strict semi-legit places loosened up… but many new semi-legit spas…. & semilegit places that become hire mileage lose staff.

Remarkable truth is… sl gals don’t really make less $$$ … even if they don’t put out.

 

[Johnjoebowler]

It seems like that … lotsa formerly strict semi-legit places loosened up… but many new semi-legit spas…. & semilegit places that become hire mileage lose staff.

Remarkable truth is… sl gals don’t really make less $$$ … even if they don’t put out.

No shit?
I've been pestering you about pushing those girls for ages fuckface.
Now that you see that they all leave you change your tune!!!

The older ones are stuck and have to offer swrvice to compete.
The younger ones that are pushed to offer more service by cocksucker promoters, enjoy the money in the beginning. Then they get too busy when the word gets out and burn out.
Ring a bell fuckface?

Then they leave and go to a spa where they can pick and choose when and who they offer service to.

Looks like you've clued in now as you're not bastardizing the new young girls.

Should have listened to me before you ruined Bellagio.

 

[TheWhiteShadow]

It seems like that … lotsa formerly strict semi-legit places loosened up… but many new semi-legit spas…. & semilegit places that become hire mileage lose staff.

Remarkable truth is… sl gals don’t really make less $$$ … even if they don’t put out.

Let's put it this way, haven't been to a "holistic" spa in almost 2 years, have never ask for over semi service, most times leave spa having received services way over and above semi legit services. They way promotors promote girls, and when spas have a mix of Holistic and Semi girls, it makes it way to hard for the girls not offering those services to compete. In the end, they either leave or give in

 

[xtc27]

No shit?
I've been pestering you about pushing those girls for ages fuckface.
Now that you see that they all leave you change your tune!!!

The older ones are stuck and have to offer swrvice to compete.
The younger ones that are pushed to offer more service by cocksucker promoters, enjoy the money in the beginning. Then they get too busy when the word gets out and burn out.
Ring a bell fuckface?

Then they leave and go to a spa where they can pick and choose when and who they offer service to.

Looks like you've clued in now as you're not bastardizing the new young girls.

Should have listened to me before you ruined Bellagio.

Same old song. It gets boring.

 

[xtc27]

Let's put it this way, haven't been to a "holistic" spa in almost 2 years, have never ask for over semi service, most times leave spa having received services way over and above semi legit services. They way promotors promote girls, and when spas have a mix of Holistic and Semi girls, it makes it way to hard for the girls not offering those services to compete. In the end, they either leave or give in

U nailed it … once they have 1 or 2 offering fs… fs clients visit sl girls & want fs f/ them…

So… fs gals can service anyone … boy, can they ever! … & SL gals only can do their own clients… who get fs f/ other gals & switch…

So pool of SL clients keeps shrinking … eventually SL gals gotta put out or get out

… it happened @ OM… use 2b quiet lil SL spa … added a few oral specialists, gd gals like Anna left… now every single gal there does cbj minimum …

 

[TheWhiteShadow]

U nailed it … once they have 1 or 2 offering fs… fs clients visit sl girls & want fs f/ them…

So… fs gals can service anyone … boy, can they ever! … & SL gals only can do their own clients… who get fs f/ other gals & switch…

So pool of SL clients keeps shrinking … eventually SL gals gotta put out or get out

… it happened @ OM… use 2b quiet lil SL spa … added a few oral specialists, gd gals like Anna left… now every single gal there does cbj minimum …

Lots of other spas/girls doin the same as OM. They are just the only one where the owner is upfront and advertising it.

 

[xtc27]

Lots of other spas/girls doin the same as OM. They are just the only one where the owner is upfront and advertising it.

… yeah, OM = just xxxample … we got all their posts still online, e-z 2 follow the changes …

It looks like GW evolving now… just look @ recent reviews …

 

[xtc27]

In my own experiences on this topic, found it boils down to several things:

1. Paid or unpaid.
2. Mental health & stability.
3. Realistic expectations.
4. Someone better or shift in personal life

With the girls seen over years, as mentioned in the threads, you do develop a connection and rapport, usually leading to heightened experiences in services offered, outside the spa interactions, and ongoing communication.

The line for me that is crossed that shows whether it's of substance, is when you pay or not. You'll pay for the room fee, but aren't tipping for what happens in room. You might think that's bullshit! but have seen several girls where no money is exchanged in room. How does this happen? One day, the girl says, I can't charge you anymore, or says your money's no good here, or places the money back into your pants. A line's been crossed, and she knows you aren't just a customer.

Some aren't in the best mental health, or stable. At the worst have experienced girls who are most likely bipolar. When they're manic, you can have some of the best experiences you've ever had at a spa in every which way. When they're depressed, you can see and experience vindictive, jealous, immature, and risky behaviour.

I've had one have realistic expectations. We obviously met at a spa. Given that context, we are both often seeing other people. Why would we be exclusive? She's seeing dozens of guys a week. She has a preference for her to take care of my needs more often, or exclusively. But knows that variety is the spice. She'll up her game, and soon, you're enjoying things with her that you don't with others.

In moving on, from her ending things for a myriad of reasons, or things have changed in your own circumstances, at times finding someone younger and hotter. Clearly nothing lasts forever, and what you experienced when the curtain temporarily opened, is a good memory.

As time passes, circumstances can also change where you connect again. When that's happened in the past, it's either cold and professional, or like putting on an old comfortable pair of shoes. Often that re-connection has happened as a walk-in to a spa, and discovering she's there.

When u connect W a spa girl… it’s just better… not just emotionally, but service wise…

… 1st time I saw this girl, it took a bit of persuasion 2 get her naked… finished HJ style, her standing beside table… last time I saw her, pussy slide f/ on top, her moaning & crying out, pulling me on top of her… very intense & same $60 tip… believe me, I hand her $ tip & she gives $40 change …

That’s the point of repeating … just amazing service, beyond anything a tip can deliver … these gals= just human beings, ready & willing 2 make gr8 deep personal connections once u gain their trust… one of most fun parts of hobbying!

… & some of them = nut bars … u find out eventually… then hopefully u can walk away… some u get separated w by accident … I got one like that … & some there’s a reason, it gets resolved, & u reunite

 

[eyeswideshut]

The closeness resulting in conflict is usually the result of one getting closer to the other but realizing the relationship will never end up a couple

Sometimes it does though. Odds still are that it'll be rocky. But can be fantastic if it works

 

[eyeswideshut]

I had a girl I used to see at a no extras spa. Used to bbfs cip. After maybe 10 times she told me I shouldn’t see her again. I already knew she had a BF who didn’t know what she did. A month later I went back and we just picked up again right where we left off. Eventually she confessed her BF was her fiancé. Saw her one time after she got married almost a year later. She then left the biz.

This probably happens more than you know. It's a different world, takes a bit to get used to but can be a wild ride once you do