How long should I wait to tell?

[Newbie555]

My husband and I are very happy to have just found out that I am pregnant. ;D  I am about 4 weeks.  But, I am now full of questions regarding working and pregnancy.  Any opinions or information would be useful.  Here are my questions.How soon should I wait to tell the Dr. that I IC for?How soon should I wait to tell my clients?How soon will it be necessary to cut back hours at the Dr.'s? (I work three days a week - very fast paced, long days)  In the later months, what pointers do any of you that have been through working and being pregnant have?I have read that standing for more than 3 hours a day and doing repetitive and tedious work is not good during pregnancy.  This has concerned me since on average I am doing 4-6 hours of massage a day.  I am experiencing mild nausea and fatigue thoughout the day.  I have never had to nap so much!  I appreciate your replys!

 

[beach heaven]

How soon should I wait to tell?

BJBI love the last part. You tell the baby that your going to work.  What a great experience for a pre-natal baby to be involved in such a loving and nurturing career.  Congrats to you Masthera...Never been pregnant, so no personal words of advice, just good wishes to you all :-*

 

[James M]

How soon should I wait to tell?

Many Congrats to you! ;DI found out I was pregnant the first time 1 month after I started school for massage...nothing like gettinga massage everyday while your pregnant!    My daughter is 5 and loves to touch and be touched...as I believe all children of Massage Therapists do!I found out I was pregnant again last November, and promptly told everyone!  However, I had a miscarriage in my 11th week, and although I was able to come to complete closure in a matter of days, and had zero issues talking to people about it when they asked, it was sad for me to see how the news had affected my clients.Personally, if I become pregnant again, I will wait until I am as far along as possible before I tell everyone like I did this last time.Who you work for, on the other hand, is a different story.  I would tell him as soon as possible.  Just my 2 cents!I am so excited for you!  I wish you all the love your baby can handle!

 

[Ronan]

How soon should I wait to tell?

Thank you all for your posts and well wishes!Everything is going well.  I am planning on talking to the Dr. this week.  I did 5 hours of massage today and felt pretty tired once I got home.  I am sure he will do whatever I need to be comfortable.  I am going to try to limit things to three hours(all appointments at his office are back to back) a day.  But, It will take a little while to find another therapist.Kneadfulthings,I am sorry to hear about your loss.  I am glad that you were able to move on so well and can share.  As I am sure all newly pregnant women are, I am concerned with miscarriage.  Since you never know, but I am also trying not to dwell on it.  I am selectively telling a few clients who I know will be a good support system if need be (I have worked on some of them for 3-4 years).  But I agree with everyone about keeping it too myself for awhile, which should be pretty easy since my morning sickness isn't too bad.BJP-LPM,Congrats to you!  You have come a long way.  I can only begin to imagine.  Good Luck to you.I have my first visit on the 16th.  I am sure they will able able to answer some of my many questions.  But, it is also nice to have the experiences of those who can relate and are in the massage profession.  It is such unique work.Keep your posts coming please!

 

[Wing]

How soon should I wait to tell?

Congratulations on your pregnancy!! I agree in waiting to tell your clients for as long as possible while telling the doc asap.  Possibly, when you speak with him, you could ask for add'l time between appts?  Rather than back-to-back maybe scheduling a short break between appts would work better for you.  Also, bringing in fresh fruits to enjoy between appt's might help with your stamina. Best of luck!!

 

[Feline]

How soon should I wait to tell?

Thanks!Because of the schedule at the office, it is too limiting (to the Dr. less money of course) to schedule breaks in between, but if I cut back to 3 hours a day there and they hire another therapist I think that would work.  I have been wanting to cut back or leave anyway.Now I have the dilemma of what to tell my clients when they ask WHY I have cut my hours.  I have worked there for 3.5 years and as it stands now they have a two week wait to get an appointment.  It will be hard not to tell them what is going on and I have no other ideas of what to tell them.  

 

[Elektra M]

Congratulations!  I too, have been pregnant while  in the massage field.  The first thing I would like to tell you is that ginger is an amazing way to get rid of any morning sickness, (or anytime of the day sickness, as I had it for 4 months before someone told me this)  I went to my local health food store and asked about it.  Ginger comes in many forms, but I chose to take capsules every 3 hours.  If I would not take it right away I would feel the sickness coming on, so it really helped me.  I think as far as telling your clients goes, when you feel ready to tell them, tell them.  You are full of excitement and if you feel the desire to share this with people that have been in your life for such a long time, you should.  They will all be so happy to hear the wonderful news.  If you don't feel as though you want to share the news with your clients just yet, maybe letting them know your hours are changing because you and your husband are "trying to have a baby".  Letting your clients know that you want to be healthy and not feel overly tired.  The way I look at it is, the more positive thoughts and prayers the better!  Once you are ready to stop working you should send all your clients an announcement of the news.  You can include something about the new therapist, if and when you plan to come back.  I had every intention of coming back 6 weeks after my youngest son was born.  Then family life seemed so comfortable and not until 3 years later, was I back in the work force.  So don't be to surprised if your plans change.  Cute little babies have a way of doing that!!!  You'll soon know what and how to do all of this.  Trust your instincts and go with what feels right for you.Congratulations and good luck, my children are the lights in my world!

 

[irland1553]

Just an update,I told the Dr. and the office manager yesterday about the pregnancy. آ They were both very excited and supportive. آ More so than I really expected. آ The Dr. doesn't want to hire another therapist. آ He would rather have another therapist to call when my waiting list gets too long. آ More like a fill-in. آ Not sure how successfull they will be at finding a therapist who would want to work like that.They said they will adjust my schedule to whatever I want and see how it goes from there. آ I am planning on cutting back to no more that 3 hours a day there. آ I would still like to keep working on my at home clientel, so that would leave me some more time to accomodate them. آ I only take one a night at home and Thursdays I usually have about 2-4 hours. آ But it is never back to back. آ I think I can handle that. آ I haven't been feeling to bad. آ Nausea and fatigue have increased a bit and today I have a headache, but things could be worse.I have told a few selective clients, but most of my clients don't know.  I may have to tell more when my hours change, but only if they ask.  Everyone is very happy and excited.  Only one client that felt bad that I was working on her, but she had a 9 month old.  Thank you all for your support and replys! Jas, آ I've been sipping on ginerale and lemon water. آ It does a good job, but I have to alternate or I get to the point where I can't stand one or the other. آ I'll have to look into the capsules. آ 

 

[SnowWebster2]

How long should I wait to tell?

Congrats on your pregnancy.  You know, of course it's totally up to you on when to tell your clients.  Though remember that it won't be long before they'll be able to notice!    I wouldn't put too much effort into being concerned about it.  Like with your boss, most people will be very supportive! There was a girl that I worked with at my last employer that got pregnant.  She told her clients that she was pregnant right away and that worked for her.  She had quite a bit of "morning" sickness but never actually got "ill" while with a client.  She worked up until 10 days before she gave birth.  She came back to work (only part-time ~ 3 days a week) about 6 weeks later.  Kinda crazy as far as I'm concerned but hey, it worked for her.  Everyone's case is different and everyone's pregnancy is different too!  You may try to make plans for how things will go but that baby may try to make his/her own!  I know mine did!  Just remember to stay relaxed and listen to your body.  As far as repetitive work goes, as long as you have a "normal & healthy" pregnancy everything should be great! Good luck!

 

[DAT DUDE OUTTA BK]

Just saw this thread and thought I should update it.That pregnancy was about 1 year ago.  I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks.  The miscarriage happened while I was at work, but it couldn't have happened with a better client.  Everyone was very understanding and supportive.Everything went fine and I have recovered both physically and mentally.My husband and I have been trying again since about January.  It has been frustrating, but we are determined to keep at it.I hope this thread can be helpful for someone and that they have a happy and healthy pregnancy.