Mongering and SOs

[al?zy?o??]

not to be a buzz kill, but to play devil's advocate, how would you feel if your SO was mongering herself? dabbling with men of all different races, types, and cock shapes/sizes? i don't think the justification is complete until you've been honest with yourself about how you'd feel in her shoes.

My only SO is my right hand. I doubt she will mind if my fat ass gets to have some variety.

 

[jimmy 1054]

my wife and I have a good sex life. we have sex just about every day.
My straying started with affairs during bussiness trips, one night stands at first, then became contacts whenever I was in the area. I had a so for a while but that was to stressful trying to make it work and keeping it secret from my wife. I decided that that was not for me. I turned to this hobby.
At first I just went through all of the adds daily, never really sure if the girls were real or not, then I finally got the nerve to call one girl and set up an appointment.
I felt great walking out of there, I thought that doing this once a month might do the trick. But now I find myself seeing a provider at least once a week, I have one that I feel comfortable with and really enjoy spending time with her but dont want it to be to much like a real relationship. So I mix other girls in just to keep the strange coming. I dont know how long I will continue this march, but for me right now it is working great. My wife has no idea what i'm doing and our relationship is a happy one. I feel like if your so doesnt know what you are doing, and it doesnt interfere with your daily life then your not hurting anybody. You only live once, enjoy the ride!!

 

[cheap tibia gold]

I love my wife, but she's just not interested in sex. She was a virgin when we got married, and I can see why. Although religion played a part in her abstaining from premarital sex, but she just has no sex drive. When I ask for it, she just seems to perform an obligatory duty that comes with the marriage. We're happy together, and I do love her dearly, but I do have my needs and mongering is the only way I let out some steam, as I am not interested in long term extramarital relationships.

 

[Genci]

This is good advice. I won't lie, I'm just starting out and feel the guilt big-time, especially because my wife and I have a healthy sex life (3-5x a week). It'd probably be easier if she held out a lot but not the case. Either way, I can't get over the desire for variety and new strange...

 

[Jinyan]

Just sit back, relax, and enjoy the fucking. Be smart and safe and don't get caught or put in doubt in her mind. If you truly love her you won't say shit and deny cheating on her on your deathbed!

 

[??????]

Yes sir! And when you find those civies that don't care, you're usually in for an even better time than had you been single!

I should add a couple things:

1) I'm not looking for an emotional connection, my relationships are short-term and purely physical.

2) I take great pains to keep my alternate life discreet.

My wife and I agreed a long time ago that, if either of us ever strayed, we really DON'T want to know. Ignorance is bliss, so suck-it-up and keep that sh*t to yourself. I CANNOT F'ING STAND when I see guys(who want to re-commit to the relationship) destroy the hearts and minds of their SO's, under the guise of "clearing their conscience". F*CK YOU!!! Unless SHE asks you, there is nothing "admirable" about ambushing your SO. It is the most selfish, egocentric bullsh*t I've ever witnessed! Yup, guilt sucks and it can be painful, but that's never a reason to drag her down with you. Unless you are walking out that door forever, make your penance in private.

That's my $0.02, anyway. ;-)

P.S. My rant isn't towards anyone specific.

 

[Howthebldyhellru]

I agree. I never remove my wedding ring and have no intention of leaving my marriage. If asked if I am married I always say yes = women in massage places and escorts don't care anyway and civilians will either go for it or delicate to proceed - their choice.

 

[ONIEiTIBA]

THE THREE STAGES OF MARITAL SEX

Stage 1- KITCHEN SEX- When you first get married, you have sex all the time, in every room of the house, including the kitchen. Merely brushing up against each other in the kitchen causes an all out animal assault on each other and have wild sex with reckless abandon.

Stage 2- BEDROOM SEX- over time, whether it's decreased interest or the arrival of children, sex becomes predictable and less frequent and limited to the bedroom.

Stage 3- HALLWAY SEX- you've grown to hate one another and the only sex you have is when passing each other in the hallway, you each say "fuck you" to the other.

 

[Allan Palmer]

Gosh my brother - your story and mine are almost Identical. Didn't get into the hobby until the very end of my 10 year relationship. I say relationship because we never actually married. So, it was a common law marriage. Plus, we are no longer together. And, if I had known about this hobby, and the amount of pussy available out there - albeit, you do have to pay money for it - I would have probably gotten into it many years sooner. But, everything else you mentioned is exactly what I went through. I imagine there are a lot of us guys that go through this. I use to think that I was the only one. And we loved each other. But, like you said - with all the external bullshit going on in our lives, the sexual part of our relationship just died. And she also had a 10 year old daughter that I helped her raise, when we hooked up. And her daughter and I had a really great relationship - considering that I wasn't her real father. But after time, she came to love me as a father, and I came to love her as my very own daughter. She is all grown and married now, and we still keep in touch to this day. As for the mother - well, we also keep in touch, but it's much less frequent these days. My Ex decided to leave after 10 years to pursue her singing career before she got to old, and regretted it. So again, it wasn't because we didn't love each other anymore. But, I digress a great deal here. I realize we were talking more about the lack of sex, and the seeking of it else where. Anyway, thanks for sharing that brother. You touched a nerve, and it brought back a lot of memories for me. It's really amazing how fast our lives, and best laid plans can change.

 

[KoioV]

Amen! My thoughts e-x-a-c-t-l-y.

Married. Love my wife. No problems in the bedroom. I'm just a man. A man who has chosen to stop fighting biology. It took more than 3-BILLION years to get us here and I, for one, do not see how 10,000 years of civilization and social evolution is supposed to change that.

 

[angie d.]

The pussy we're owed. The money? I might be willing to discuss the ethics of that one. ...After the pussy, of course.

SG

 

[Tony Jordan Oliver]

I tell you...my SO is busy taking care of the kid and the house and dinner. By the end of the day, she look more exhausted than me when i come home after a full day at work.

Been together for over 10 years and nothing have changed except the fucking part.

Our fucking schedule went from humping once a day the first month when we first meet, to once a week after 6 months, then once a month after 2 years, to finally once every 6 months as currently stands.

No i seriously doubt she have time or energy to fuck anybody on the side and i think lot of people here can relate to the low sex drive from SO after years of marriage. She is not even 40. She does still give me a back rub every week or so when i ask nicely.

Funny part is i am like that Will Farrell in "old school". We go to Bed, Bath & Beyond to buy shit she want and other crap that we never need every weekend. Nobody would suspect i got this hobby on the side.

 

[antonio d]

Or perhaps he was upset that he didn't find this place sooner?

=P

 

[Clown Keeper]

I would agree with this.

 

[kwepwuwdisxipgezg]

More like tears of joys on my first double trident.

 

[Jenoaleni]

Yea, so why was he crying on my shoulders after his guilt ridden session with my russkie gals.

 

[The Dreamer (AC Theory)]

Great analogy Pudge. I by no means consider myself an expert like some of the senior members, but it does feel a bit easier after time to rationalize.

 

[txnpxjio]

Good shit...I agree 100

 

[Tyrone Biggums]

Since everything I do and have written was done is a work of fiction, I feel no guilt.

 

[210.KYLE.210]

Pudgy - Funniest shit I've read in a while.

JK - I've taken breaks from the hobby. I don't get it enough from the SO and start getting backed up. I get out there and all of a sudden my SO and I are getting along much better. As screwed up as it sounds it makes my relationship better.