What advice would the veterans give the young guys involved in this hobby?

[Boston Man Chowder]

I think I've just come around to this way of thinking. Reading these message boards and looking at the profiles of different girls, it makes the imagination run wild. I desperately wanted to try them all out and I've been going really hard lately, recently I went every fucking day for a week and even twice on one day. I actually got burned out, I thought what the hell am I doing this is supposed to be fun. I took a break for a week and had a 90 min session with my regular and it was perhaps the best session I've ever had. I guess I just had to get it all outta my system. Quality over quantity from now on.

And I thank you for those reviews because you experienced them for me and so now I'm no longer a slave to that curiosity. You're damn right it's supposed to be fun but when the list grows and grows, it starts to feel more like a job than a hobby. I'm not saying do what I do and see one girl. Just cut your list in half if possible bro. Your reviews are great but you don't owe any of us anything on this forum.

 

[Seasoned-vet]

I'm relatively young - fresh out of uni and working downtown making 55k+.. and ive been noticing ever since i started working fulltime and had quite a disposable income that ive been looking at more expensive SPs - moonwaiting/icandy4u escorts. a bit more expensive than typical SPs but damn the experience you get for hh with those asian girls is crazy. however, i also recently broke up with my gf as i felt she required too much time from me and with how busy my work is now i somewhat prefer just dropping in on a weekend and seeing 1-2 ladies every week without having to deal with constant calls/texts/snapchats/DMs/all that bullshit relationships bring.

however, i feel like this is going to change the way i look at girls and relationships moving forward.. and cant help but think this is going to leave irreversible damage on my outlook on women lol. what would you veterans say to a younger guy who was accidentally exposed to this hobby a few years back? ditch it while i still can? what would you tell yourself if you could go back in time to your first encounter.

If this hobby becomes a top 3 priority in your life, go seek help as there is more important things to focus on a daily basis, unless you have the financial means to sustain it on a regular basis. All woman have sex, some more than others the only difference here is that a provider has seen it all in most cases and has sex on multiple occasions weekly compared to someone you would meet on a dating site or elsewhere. You young bucks should limit yourself to a couple times a month, and dont forget the golden rule. Woman will always break mens balls one way or another in normal relationships, and this industry provides a temporary fix not a permanent fix.

 

[Ursus]

Krayjee,

No one believes your johnbubya persona of a young career professional, fresh out of university.

You are an old, Thai degenerate and an obvious lying piece of shit.

 

[Seasoned-vet]

Krayjee,

No one believes your johnbubya persona of a young career professional, fresh out of university.

You are an old, Thai degenerate and an obvious lying piece of shit.

Truth or not, a young professional should be enjoying life with various women so he can set the foundation with what he wants in a woman. This industry is not the right place for that with 30 to 90 minute sessions where fantasy and reality collide.

 

[c1000]

1. Don't spend more than $500 a month. Just don't, you're wasting your cash.
2. Have regular activities that keeps you interacting with people, especially women. I fell into the cycle of (work, work, work, hobby)*∞. Life is about you, not the hobby.

 

[johnbuyba]

Krayjee,

No one believes your johnbubya persona of a young career professional, fresh out of university.

You are an old, Thai degenerate and an obvious lying piece of shit.

you know you don't have to reply to me if you think this is all bullshit right ursula? there are actually some great responses im getting here.

why don't you go take care of your asian wife, or indian boyfriend? whichever one is real and which is imaginary.. if not both.

 

[yung-goose]

Coming from another young guy thats been in the game for year. Ima keep it short and real with you.

55k is too low. I don't care if it's all disposable. This hobby is a slippery slope.

 

[johnbuyba]

I won't bore you with the whole "save your money and invest in property" crap because it all goes without saying. I'm doing fine now but was able to do this hobby when I was broke because we all need a few vices in life and going to MPs is better than drinking or smoking weed. Set a budget, find a few regulars and limit that list. I've never been the adventurous type but I've noticed that seeing one woman has considerably shrunk my budget as opposed to the time that I had to stash away several thousands of dollars on a bunch of 40/45-minute sessions so I could try as many girls as possible every week. Now I can get more out of this hobby by having unrushed 90-minute or 2-hour sessions twice or more a month with someone I trust. I suggest that you treat this hobby as a fantasy and not a means of attaining sexual gratification. Fuck! You're young! Use Tinder for sex! Let the fantasy from your MP experiences inspire you to find the right woman.

i think this is the best advice. since a few weeks ago after going through moonwaiting and barbiehouse's roster, ive been trying desperately to fit atleast 5 girls into my schedule over the past 3 weeks wanting to try them all out. however i think its best i find 1 good one that is worth the time and money, which will likely cut down my visits and lower the risk that comes with trying someone new..

and with tinder, i do use it but man if you think the SPs have bad bait and switch tendencies. with all the snapchat and instagram filters there are now, you wouldnt believe me if i told you how many times i met up with tinder girls and they dont even look half of what they looked like in their photos. becomes really annoying meeting a girl at a restaurant for food only to find out shes fatter or uglier in person. its a real pain in the ass to worry about that, and if they're ugly i don't even try to fuck after, i just go home. its really a bitch to put all that time and effort just for a girl to catfish me.tinder does have its gems but its not easy when you live with your parents. can't really bring girls back to my place and girls arent often too eager to fuck in the car after a first date. oh well

 

[johnbuyba]

Coming from another young guy thats been in the game for year. Ima keep it short and real with you.

55k is too low. I don't care if it's all disposable. This hobby is a slippery slope.

well i bring home about 3500 a month after taxes and my monthly expenses are about 200$ at the most.. so i think as long as i'm not dropping more than 500 a month it shouldnt leave too big a dent in my savings

 

[yung-goose]

well i bring home about 3500 a month after taxes and my monthly expenses are about 200$ at the most.. so i think as long as i'm not dropping more than 500 a month it shouldnt leave too big a dent in my savings

Lmao ok bro but here are some tell tale signs you need to chill out. If you find yourself doing any of these, reflect and be honest with yourself about what's really going on here.

A) Talking to women in real life less and less
B) Canceling plans or flaking on your friends to get in a session
C) Seeing a girl, than immediately looking at others for whom to see next
D) Getting in a cycle of work, sleep, work, sleep, work, hobby
E) Not spending money on other things you enjoyed before (shoes, night outs, travelling etc) just to squeeze in another session

 

[johnbuyba]

Lmao ok bro but here are some tell tale signs you need to chill out. If you find yourself doing any of these, reflect and be honest with yourself about what's really going on here.

A) Talking to women in real life less and less
B) Canceling plans or flaking on your friends to get in a session
C) Seeing a girl, than immediately looking at others for whom to see next
D) Getting in a cycle of work, sleep, work, sleep, work, hobby
E) Not spending money on other things you enjoyed before (shoes, night outs, travelling etc) just to squeeze in another session

Lol well lets see..

A) Talking to women in real life less and less - i work with quite a few girls my age and i'd say im friendly with everyone at the office regardless of gender. i sometimes go out for lunch with them too
B) Canceling plans or flaking on your friends to get in a session - i never do this. hobbying is not very frequent for me - maybe once every 1/2 weeks
C) Seeing a girl, than immediately looking at others for whom to see next - nope. once i get that heavenly drainage from my balls i dont even jack off for a few days as i like to allow them to refill to max ammunition. lol
D) Getting in a cycle of work, sleep, work, sleep, work, hobby - i can see this happening as my work hours are really crazy with usually 45-60 hour weeks. monday to friday im usually either at work, commuting, or sleeping.
E) Not spending money on other things you enjoyed before (shoes, night outs, travelling etc) just to squeeze in another session - i do also have other things i enjoy, been recently buying some new loafers and pricier work attire, and me and my friends often go eat atleast friday and saturday night.

i think i'm 4/5 here so i guess risk isnt too high lol

 

[Jumpin’ Jack Flash]

Coming from another young guy thats been in the game for year. Ima keep it short and real with you.

55k is too low. I don't care if it's all disposable. This hobby is a slippery slope.

I’m at +$250k and won’t go over $500/month
It’s just a waste of money but i do enjoy it in moderation. I’m not paying for a 20 something year old’s bmw or condo when I didn’t have a chance at owning any of those at that age with way more education.
I remember being in a strip club with a group of friends a few years ago and one guy puts $500 on the table and goes to the bathroom. When he came back he picked up the cash and put it back in his pocket
He said I just jerked off in the bathroom. I’m keeping the 500

 

[yung-goose]

Lol well lets see..

A) Talking to women in real life less and less - i work with quite a few girls my age and i'd say im friendly with everyone at the office regardless of gender. i sometimes go out for lunch with them too
B) Canceling plans or flaking on your friends to get in a session - i never do this. hobbying is not very frequent for me - maybe once every 1/2 weeks
C) Seeing a girl, than immediately looking at others for whom to see next - nope. once i get that heavenly drainage from my balls i dont even jack off for a few days as i like to allow them to refill to max ammunition. lol
D) Getting in a cycle of work, sleep, work, sleep, work, hobby - i can see this happening as my work hours are really crazy with usually 45-60 hour weeks. monday to friday im usually either at work, commuting, or sleeping.
E) Not spending money on other things you enjoyed before (shoes, night outs, travelling etc) just to squeeze in another session - i do also have other things i enjoy, been recently buying some new loafers and pricier work attire, and me and my friends often go eat atleast friday and saturday night.

i think i'm 4/5 here so i guess risk isnt too high lol

Fucking guy LMAOO

Welcome to the club. Please enjoy yourself and don't forget to report back. Happy hobbying!

 

[pluto101]

Dont make friends with Krayjee and his 40 + handles.

The man is a Sociopath.

How do you know he has 40 plus handles? Did he tell you that?


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[johnbuyba]

How do you know he has 40 plus handles? Did he tell you that?


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no the voice in his head told him that. the same one that told him he has an asian wife, and a daughter in china, and all the other horseshit he spouts on here

 

[hung89]

I think everyone here knows this is a waste of money, problem is its addictive. I'm 29 and was spending way too much thinking I was forming relationships and thinking I was special. In the end I'm even more socially fucked with trust issues and have less savings than I should. Also I feel less motivated to put myself out there, why open yourself up to rejection when you can spend $140. Build a real relationship this shit is fake, my friends envy me but they're legit happy. Thankfully I felt a change in me from 4-6 times a month down to 1 eventually the urges will stop and ill retire

 

[luvnewpussy]

Enjoy it bro..

Everything.has its phase. Attraction brings the right people to you. Just continue to be social outside of the SPA environment and your good. You dont have alot of expenses and commitments. Have your fun and get it out your system.

 

[AthleticAF]

Pay you're fucking school tution off FIRST. You don't YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY FUCKED.

 

[BicircleJerk]

however, i feel like this is going to change the way i look at girls and relationships moving forward.. and cant help but think this is going to leave irreversible damage on my outlook on women lol. what would you veterans say to a younger guy who was accidentally exposed to this hobby a few years back? ditch it while i still can? what would you tell yourself if you could go back in time to your first encounter.

I wouldn't say it changes your outlook on women. The bigger issue is when you catch a STD, which eventually you will, what will your gf/wife say.

If I never did it, I would have saved good money, but realistically of course I would do it all over again, due to childhood trauma, it is an addiction similar to gambling, alcohol, drugs etc.

The best advice assuming you have to do it is maximizing your bang for the buck.

1) Stick with massages and HJ, it is not worth the STD risk to go further than that.
2) Variety is the spice of life.
3) Research each place, search for your perfect experience. e.g. I found an Asian spa which had a university student around 22, fucking hot that was there every Thursday night, we had so much fun.
4) Once you are married you will get caught one day, best advice is deny, deny, deny.

 

[johnbuyba]

Pay you're fucking school tution off FIRST. You don't YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY FUCKED.

thanks to my parents and quite a few grants i am graduating debt free lol.